Dr. Joel Wade

After starting my new self-improvement book I decided to roam the youtube videos to see what lectures there were. To my surprise there were quite a few. After looking through them and gaining little in each one I began to think I had wasted my time. That was until I stumbled upon a lecture by Joel Wade the author of many self-improvement books. Dr. Wade talked about self-help and self-improvement from a different angle some in his field would even say it was challenging the norm. You follow the link and listen to decide for yourself. But what I did pull away from the lecture is the notion that it is better to not vision your finish line and when you have reached your goal. Instead think about the process for working on your goal. For example instead of saying to yourself, alright I need to remember to call my girlfriend when I get out of work and I will feel so much better when I have done it because I will have remembered, you should envision yourself picking up the phone and making the call. Think about what you'll talk about and how you will set the tone. This helps avoid stress and also promotes a growth temperment instead of a staggered or rigged temperment (which he also talks about). The process of getting your mind to think and practice this way allows you to focus on the process or steps and puts yourself in a growth mentality which is a healthy way to improve yourself. Dr. Wade also talks about treating self-improvement like a muscle to where you make small steps but you exercise everyday. The biggest key to all of this is to push yourself toward a growth temperment but not all at once, you must acheive this by doing small steps. Follow the link below to the video and remember I miss her everyday!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EtxS6r-nfy4

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