Communication Breakdown...its always the same

If you are rock n roll savvy you will know where this post title comes from. If not then I suggest you do some research. Last night I talked about the traits of a good listener and tonight the topic is on a similar level, communication. All of us communicate a little differently, whether it be the style we communicate in or just the way we approach a conversation with another person. The problem is that communication can sometimes be hard and it may be hard to get on the same page with the other person you are talking to. We all do it from time to time, we misrepresent our thoughts and the person we are talking to gets confused and falls off the same page as you and sometimes even the same book!! So why does this happen? Do we ourselves not know how to express ourselves? Do we just think the other person knows more back ground knowledge than we give them credit for? These are two reasons why communication might fall apart but I think over the long run the biggest problem for two people talking and especially in a relationship is honesty. When you are honest consistently throughout a relationship you thought process stays the same and allows yourself to stay on your own page. Your partner may disagree and stay on there own page but at least the conversation was healthy and you both now know what page the other is on. See another trick to having a good conversation is not always being on the same page but knowing where the other person is in the book. This way when you return to a conversation in the future your partner knows where you stand and you know where your partner stands. One of you might progress and move off of one page and on to another but your partner can see from you came and where you went, allowing transparency. Communication breaks down the most when opinions are changed and though processes disrupted. So what is the real trick to having a healthy meaningful conversation? Think of your thoughts and opinions as pages in a book. To allow your partner to know you they must have to read your book, and the only way your partner will truly be able to study the book is if you stop rewriting in a way that you are constantly changing pages and chapters. Stay honest and consistent but also learn to grow and tell your partner when you have added or taken out pages of your book. If you allow the partner to know what changes you have made they will better be able to understand you and be able to have better communication with you knowing the new information they have received. So keep writing and adding to that book just make sure you let the reader know when you have edited or added something and remember I miss her everyday

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